Dating violence questions
If they violate the OP, the violation itself is a crime and the criminal justice system can take further action. For immediate help contact the NYS Domestic and Sexual Hotline at 1-800-942-6906. Ask them how you can help, being sure to keep your own safety in mind.
They may not realize they’re being abused if the abuse isn’t physical (and even if it is).It is not caused by drugs or alcohol (although these things can make abuse worse) or by anything the victim did to “provoke” the abuser. A bad economy or personal financial struggles will not cause someone to be abusive. But there may be situations in which an officer arriving on the scene could cause more problems for the victim.Abuse is not caused by a bad day, or “buttons that got pushed.” It’s not a “two-way street” or a “lover’s quarrel” and it doesn’t “take two to tango.” Abuse is always a choice. However, in homes where one partner is already abusive, strained finances and unemployment can make domestic violence worse. If possible, find out what the victim would prefer.They may rush into a relationship (“sweep you off your feet” or proclaim “love at first sight”) and insist that you spend all your time with them. One study showed that boys who witness domestic violence are twice as likely to abuse their own partners and children when they become adults. There are boys who are abusive as adults but never witnessed it in the home, and others who witnessed it in the home but decided they were not going to repeat that behavior.These are “red flags,” but there are often no signs at all. Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) and protective or resiliency factors all influence beliefs and behaviors as do other factors such as peers, the media, and social norms. Some studies show that women are as violent as men, or that they initiate violence as much as men do.